When I picture my hometown
There’s a bronze spray-tanned statue of you
And a plaque underneath it
That threatens to push me down the stairs at our school

Everyone has heard the scuttlebutt about how Taylor Swift’s “thanK You aIMee” is a thinly veiled mic-drop bop on Kim Kardashian’s head. 

I don’t know anything about that, but I do know the song hit a chord for me, as it were. And it might have made you feel some kind of way too.

And then she wrote headlines in the local paper
Laughing at each baby step I’d take

That’s because the story she tells about herself vs. “Aimee” is the same story that plays out inside our own heads. You try to do something cool like be a successful real estate agent, and then a really mean voice inside your head starts in on you with cruel words like:

  • “Wow, you sure can fake it, but no way you’ll make it.”
  • “Here, how about I make it so scary to make a phone call that you never actually get any business.”
  • “You are not worth what you get paid.”

This is the classic struggle between your evolved brain which wants to do things you’ve never done before and feel things you’ve never felt before, versus your primitive brain, which believes that if you deviate from the status quo, it could be fatal. Unlike Kim K., your primitive brain has a pretty noble motive: keeping you alive. But, like Kim K., it’s not quite evolved and doesn’t get that your personal growth is actually your evolutionary imperative. T Swift’s song reminds you that having the tiniest bit of faith in yourself and staying in the fight is essential.

All that time you were throwing punches
I was building something
And I couldn’t wait to show you it was real

You cannot push away the voices in your head, and you can’t trick them. You just have to show them by taking action. Even the smallest of actions, taken consistently, will eventually build up into something big. No matter what kind of garbage you’re hearing, remember that this internal warfare is actually essential to your success.

Screamed, “Fuck you, Aimee” to the night sky
As the blood was gushing
But I can’t forget the way you made me heal

Heal? Yes! Every time you face a demon, there will be damage, but there will also be healing. Like a broken bone that knits itself back together stronger at the break site than when it was unbroken, you will come back stronger and more confident with every battle.

But when I count the scars, there’s a moment of truth
That there wouldn’t be this if there hadn’t been you

So congratulations—you’re just like Taylor Swift! And she’s given you the grace of writing a song about how it all works. 

Take it from Taylor: If you stay in the fight and keep taking consistent action, no matter how small, you will eventually conquer those demons and reach any height you set your mind to.