Everything you’ve ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.

George Addair

Let’s talk about fear in the real estate industry, shall we? Fear is the driving force behind almost every choice we make in our lives. 

Think about it: How often do you say no to opportunities because you are afraid to fail? We tend to shy away from challenges that have the potential to facilitate personal growth simply due to our fear of failure.

What about fear of change or fear of the unknown? Maybe you’re longing to leave your brokerage or your team, but you’re too afraid to step out of your comfort zone.

Or maybe it’s fear of rejection or embarrassment that’s holding you back. We’ve all been there, right? I avoid networking events like the plague. I would rather do anything else than sit in the corner like a loser slamming espresso martinis without a friend in sight. Sometimes just the thought of talking to other Realtors is exhausting.

Let’s not forget about the fear of judgment – my personal favorite. We think, “What will people say if I post that silly video? What will they think if I put myself out there online?”

We All Feel Fear—What Matters is How You Respond to It

The extent to which fear can influence our lives is truly remarkable. But here’s the thing: six months ago, I made a decision. I told myself that fear will never again influence the decisions I make regarding my career.

Guys, I want you to know that when I was in high school, I willingly flunked out of speech class because I was so afraid to speak in front of people. I was terrified of being judged, of failing, of looking stupid. And you know what? That fear almost held me back for good.

However, it is a fact that we will all grow old eventually. And when that time comes, I don’t want to be stuck wondering what could have transpired for me had I just said yes. So I’m saying yes. 

 And I want to encourage you to do the same.

 Now you might be thinking, “Well that journey is really cool for you…. But I have so much fear and anxiety. How do I practically deal with this?”

 Here are some simple ways you can deal with fear. 

3 Ways to Deal with Fear

What I’m going to tell you next has been completely life-changing for me. These tips have single-handedly changed my relationship with fear and anxiety.

#1 Accept that Fear Isn’t a Bad Thing

Fear isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s helped us survive for millions of years. It’s designed to prepare our bodies to confront danger or flee from it. 

We have to understand that we can’t eliminate fear – it’s always going to be there. What we can do, though, is change the relationship we have with fear.

#2 Practice Mindfulness

Earlier I said that fear is a driver in the majority of our life choices, but let’s put fear in the back seat. Let me explain.

I want you to picture yourself in a car. You’re the passenger, and fear is the driver. Fear starts talking to you and says something like, “You’re not good enough.” Or, “What makes you think you can do that?”

Ask fear to stop the car and then throw fear in the backseat. Then I want you to thank fear for that thought. I know, I know—I sound like a lunatic, but stay with me. Say, “Thanks for that thought, fear!” Because, after all, it’s just trying to protect you. 

Then take a moment to notice what fear is telling you. Ask yourself, “What evidence do I have for this thought?” and “What would I say to a friend who had this thought?” 

Simply practicing this type of mindfulness can be a powerful tool for managing fear and anxiety.

#3 Shift Your Perspective

Sometimes when I’m feeling fearful, I think about my mom, who was recently diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s at age 60. 

Watching her decline has been the single most painful thing I have ever experienced. She has authored many books, and undoubtedly, I’m sure she would have loved the opportunity to be featured on a podcast or speak in front of a crowd. Sadly, she is no longer able to. Sometimes all we need is a shift in our perspective from fear to gratitude. I feel lucky that I’m able to yes to these opportunities.

Fear is a sign that we’re leaving our comfort zone and growing as individuals. If we stay in our comfort zone, we’re stuck. If we’re stuck in a situation that no longer brings us joy or satisfaction, but we’re too afraid to make a change, we’re going to be unhappy.

So, friend, I encourage you to use these tips whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed by fear and anxiety. 

Because you’re a badass—and I’m always here to remind you of that.